The holidays are, hands down, my favorite time of year, but it’s no secret that (especially for us foodies) it can bring with it a lot of kitchen chaos and performance anxiety.  So many dishes, so many people, and so many “cherished family traditions” that must be upheld, it would be well-nigh impossible to make it through the season without at least some drama.  If you come from an Italian family, like mine, well… fugget about it!   So, if we can’t avoid the chaos, let’s at least try to get a rope on it, right?  Here are a few tips to help you avoid enough of the crises to actually enjoy the food and family time, which, let’s face it…is really the whole point!    #10 – Don’t sweat the small stuff!  Does anyone really care if the tablecloth is ironed?    Does anyone really care if their napkins are shaped like swans?  Or if you’ve freshly polished Great-Grandma’s silver?  No, they don’t…they want to eat, and laugh, and then eat some more! If you’re low on time (uh, who’s not?), and that cloth is…