What follows is explicitly sexual in nature
For anyone, like me, who loves putting things in their butt, but who has always wondered about the mechanics of what’s up in there, here’s a primer for you.
On the outside of the body when you spread the butt cheeks you see what is called many things: puckered starfish, balloon knot, leather cheerio, my favorite snack, rusty sheriff’s badge, ojete, et al. What you are seeing is officially called the anus, defined by websters.com as “the opening at the lower end of the alimentary canal, through which the solid refuse of digestion is excreted." Websters neglects to mention that the anus is also the opening of an organ as experienced by countless people the world over.
As you move inside the anus the first thing you encounter is the rectum, essentially what I see as my fleshy fun tube. Now, I’m not one of those size queens who prides myself in how much dick or whatever I can shove up there. The average human rectum is between 10-15 centimeters. That’s about 4-6 inches. For me, it’s all about how you can make my prostate sing. That can be done with any length or girth of penis, finger, dildo, whatever is safe to put in there.
The prostate is a gland below the bladder and behind the penis and rectum inside a biologically male body. The urethra, or pee hole in the penis, connects through the prostate to the bladder. There are two side tubes off of the prostate gland known as the vasa deferentia (plural for vas deferens). Each vas deferens leads to one of the two testicles in the scrotum. The testicles are where sperm is located. Right outside of the prostate gland just before the vasa deferentia enter it are the seminal vesicles, one per vas deferens.
This is where some of what makes up seminal fluid is located. What we call semen is a combination of what comes from the scrotum, the seminal vesicles, and prostate gland excretions. All tubes and vesicles lead to the ejaculatory duct and into the middle of the prostate where when readying to climax it mixes into that gooey spackle that ends up all over the place: inside butts, vaginas, on faces, chests, sheets, towels, down throats… you get the picture.
To me, the pressure placed on my prostate feels like I’m a stress ball being squeezed with each slide inside of me. Each slide-out is like the release of the stress ball. Add to that a smooth slow pumping, alternating with rapid penetration, it’s as if the stress ball has exploded out of me leaving me incredibly relaxed.
Though biological females do not have a prostate. The reasons vary from full body connection to the joy of feeling something deeper inside the body. But contrary to what men think, anal isn’t on the bucket list for many women. Moral of the story: Guys, don’t think that because you want something someone else does too.
The next stop on the tour is what can feel like the final destination, the rectosigmoid junction. It is as one might expect, an actual turning point where the rectum makes a ninety-degree turn to the left side of the body and into the sigmoid colon itself. The sigmoid colon is somewhat bulbous. It is smaller at the junction between the rectum and itself, widens in the middle, and tapers again as it connects to the descending colon which is part of the large intestine. The sigmoid colon lays horizontal in the body and is the final resting place for feces before it turns the corner at the rectosigmoid junction and then exits the body through the rectum.
From 2011-2013 I walked 6,000 miles across the USA for gender identity, gender expression, and sexual orientation. I was nearing the end of my journey when, after thirty-six years of life, I had not so much as questioned what was inside of me down there.
Upon later Googling, I learned that the terminal point within me was the rectosigmoid junction. The experience taught me that the rectosigmoid junction was flexible enough to surpass, should I care to do so in the future. That’s not to say that it’s easy or even recommended to go past the end of the anal canal. After all, the sigmoid colon is what holds the poo in place.
What is douching? According to good ole websters.com douching is:
a jet or current of water, sometimes with a dissolved medicating or cleansing agent, applied to a body part, organ, or cavity for medicinal or hygienic purposes.
This is a much more affirming definition than that of the anus by Websters. Good for them on this one. Douching, in general, has been around for a very long time. It is known in the US at least that in 1957, inventor Patricia Pendelton Bragg received a patent for an anal douche.
A couple of fun videos to teach you the basics of anal douching:
Davey Wavey: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jJDLjqx3Xls
The Talking Torso: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=BugCpKJvkVQ
It is because the education of my youth said nothing of the anatomy of the butt that I chose to write this piece on the subject. It is normal to put things in your butt. It can feel good for those with a prostate gland, can connect you deeper to partners emotionally, and is just another way to enjoy and celebrate your own body. That being said, it’s not for everyone. And if it is not right for you, others need to respect that. To people who think everyone wants it in their butt: Don’t go Brett Kavanaughing yourself around. No always means no. #timesup #metoo.
Here are some other links to consider:
So, enjoy your butt. It’s yours. Just don’t go putting these things up there.