While the use of sex toys has seen an increase in public acceptance in the last years, they still have a stigma attached to them, which has to do with the older generations’ mentality that a man and a woman don’t need anything else in bed but each other. I agree, but throw a couple of sex toys in there as well and you got yourself a party. Sex toys have been used since forever. This is nothing new, but as I was growing up the idea of people using such “vile contraptions” in bed was unthinkable to respectable couples and they, at least publicly, completely rejected the idea. I never had a problem with it and as soon as I found a girl who was willing to try them, I got my hands on a sex toy “starter kit” and went to work. This has become a part of my sex life very early on and I always saw it as normal but many of my friends, especially guys, were completely against it. This got me thinking and I realized that it has something to do with their ego. Men are proud creatures. They are taught by other, more experienced men, that satisfying a woman is a sign of manliness and anybody who fails to do that on his own is not man enough and brings shame upon himself. In this context, using sex toys is seen as a sign of weakness. A man using sex toys is incapable of satisfying a woman without those and as such, he needs to resort to them to be on equal footing with the real men whose steel erections are the stuff of Heaven for all women lucky enough to meet these specimens of perfection. It’s all BS obviously. The world has come a long way toward sexual liberation and all this macho crap should become a thing of the past. Using sex toys is not a crutch that the sexually inadequate or disabled have to use in hopes of performing near the level of the normal people. Sex toys offer possibilities and variables that are not possible otherwise. Open-minded, consenting people use these ingenious gadgets to enhance the already existing feeling and bring it to new heights. Used properly, sex toys bring a lot of novelty, pleasure, and fun into the bedroom. Sex is a multi-faceted, complex field and “just doing it normally” doesn’t cut it forever. Just like in life, variety in the bedroom is important and shaking things up with a toy might be just what some couples need. The intelligent man will educate himself in the art of making love and constantly develop his knowledge and skills, not shying away from the use of gadgets which have come a long way since I first saw one. The sex toys today are of high quality, safe, built for maximum pleasure and easy to use. Even novices can quickly learn to use them and I don’t think they mind the practice required to get better. Women are more complicated than men when it comes to sex. They have more types of orgasms than men also. Their turn on’s are more varied. For men it is simple: an attractive woman is all that most of them need and they are ready to go. Women put a lot of emphasis on the foreplay and that is where the sex toys really shine. They put the woman in the mood, excite her properly and smooth out the way to a thunderous orgasm (or more, which is often the case). Some women, actually, a lot of women have difficulty reaching orgasm through penetration alone. They need extra stimulation and a sex toy can really help there while allowing for the intercourse to proceed normally. Not a lot has to change in bed by using the toys; they can just provide that extra kick to help the woman reach a full orgasm. The people that use sex toys are not in any way sexual deviants. What they do in the privacy of their bedroom is nobody else’s concern and as long as everybody who participates agrees to the practices, I believe that just about anything goes. These individuals will return to their normal lives afterward and be responsible adults just like everybody else. The use of sex toys is, in my opinion, a blessing for couples. The use of these contraptions goes a long way toward providing a genuine, quality experience for both partners and allowing them to explore their sexuality in a new way or just enhance the already-existing practices. There are various degrees to which these toys can be used and it is up to each couple to determine how much, or little they want to use them. This reminds me of a joke: what is the difference between kinky and perverted? Kinky can mean using a feather on the body of the partner; perverted means using the whole chicken!
I still can't believe that people can be so prudish! The look on the plumber's face when he noticed what I'd accidentally left on top of my bedroom dresser! You'd have thought I was a sex maniac! Or maybe he thought I was going to bludgeon him to death with it!
I still can't believe that people can be so prudish! The look on the plumber's face when he noticed what I'd accidentally left on top of my bedroom dresser! You'd have thought I was a sex maniac! Or maybe he thought I was going to bludgeon him to death with it!