Let’s imagine a scenario where a man is at his workplace. He walks by a female coworker and slaps her on the butt. That is an immediate case for his dismissal and prosecution as a sexual offender in a sexual harassment case. I find that to be a clear-cut case of a deviant forcing his odd behavior on an unsuspecting and unwilling victim. We have the right to not be touched in a sexual way by someone who we don’t feel attracted to. Now, if the same scenario plays, this time with a woman slapping the butt of a man, do the same rules apply? I don’t think so. Women constantly get away with that kind of behavior, kicking the principle of equality of the sexes in the shin.
This behavior exhibited by people who have no concept of personal space is a deviant behavior. I’m not referring to friends who play pranks on each other and have a history together that warrants this kind of action. I’m talking about coworkers who have a working relationship. At some point, the woman decides to do something inappropriate and sexual in nature without asking for permission first. The male recipient of this behavior, that can go a lot further than a simple smack on the bottom, cannot take the same legal action against the perpetrator because of peer pressure and the idea that women are somehow exempt from this rule. Also, going by men’s reactions to hearing these stories, a man should be proud that he gets this kind of female attention and at most, brag about this surprising development. Where is the justice in that? Feminists would say that this is just because women have enough hardships and a little payback is in order, considering how much men get away with. I would say that this is simply weak argumentation, used for justifying criminal behavior.
The idea that the woman is the weaker sex is used to successfully propagate this type of conduct. The man, the supposedly stronger sex, has no right to complain and is basically powerless to defend himself against these attacks. He cannot use his strength against the woman and the clever female can avoid all the man’s attempts to verbally or physically defend himself. If the same scenario were to happen with a man being the harasser, the story would unfold in a different way.
Stubborn women who cannot take no for an answer will use these underhanded tactics in trying to elicit the sexual arousal that they expect from their victims. No is just another form of yes for these people and it only entices them to push even more in their pursuit of defective sexual gratification. Regular folks rarely come across such events, since most sexual harassment cases have a man take the aggressor role. Men who are victims will often not talk about it because they are ashamed that they cannot contain the situation by themselves, or the woman could be threatening them using various subversive methods. Men are not ready for a borderline neurotic, strong-willed woman to muscle her way into their personal space and take advantage of their lack of means to defend themselves.
Much of the time, sex has nothing to do with it. The sexual actions are used as a form of bullying and emasculation the victim. Women will touch men inappropriately or talk down to them. This makes them feel powerless and weak, which allows the perpetrator to control the victim into doing what she wants. The point of this behavior is to break the other person’s will and establish dominance by chipping away at their self-esteem until they are too tired or emotionally unstable to fight back. This is classic domination attitude with a sexual twist.
What makes women less eligible to receive punishment for sexually harassing a man? The public opinion on the matter is heavily stacked against the man since most of the harassment cases involve a male as the perp. While it may seem like it is only fair that women also have a go at it in retaliation, the reality of it is that the victims are regular men who are not at fault for the conduct of others. They, just like the female victims of this behavior, have the right to not be touched in a sexual way if they don’t want it. The concept of personal space is just that, a concept, for deviants and whether they are male or female, they shouldn’t be allowed to do as they please and hurt the dignity of others in the process. So far, female deviants enjoy one protective shield offered by the ignorance of the population about this problem and another that positively rearranges the situation in the cognition of the people who do. The fact remains that the women who display this kind of etiquette are A-holes.
The deck seems to be clearly stacked against men when it comes on to sexual harassment. This violation should be equitable for both male or female but I guess women tend to be a bit more subtle in their approach. People should never feel any form of harassment let alone sexual. Everyone should be aware or made know what are off limits and even if you are not told, you should always try not to invade a persons private space and definitely avoid inappropriate touching.
The deck seems to be clearly stacked against men when it comes on to sexual harassment. This violation should be equitable for both male or female but I guess women tend to be a bit more subtle in their approach. People should never feel any form of harassment let alone sexual. Everyone should be aware or made know what are off limits and even if you are not told, you should always try not to invade a persons private space and definitely avoid inappropriate touching.